I play with myself erotically almost every day. I say almost because I check in with my body first. Sometimes my body wants a rest. Sometimes my body is tired. I have learned to listen to and respect my body’s messages. Cultivating that skill, which to me essentially defines embodiment, has changed my life. Mindful masturbation, the 21st Century version of the old-fashioned wank, is truly a new and improved version. First, when I say I play with myself, I play with my e